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All I know is that he was a 17 year old kid who was found in a dumpster three blocks from where I live. The church he was found next to is the same church where my son goes for guitar lessons. My sons music teacher from school works in that church. His father in law is the pastor there.
A few days ago, the whole block was roped off. There were forensic trucks there, a coroners van and a half dozen police cars. Apparently, someone from the church was throwing away garbage in a dumpster and found Anthony’s body in the debris. He was clothed but there were stab wounds. He was killed elsewhere and dropped off here, at the church dumpster…almost as though he were an offering.
Again, I didn’t know this boy, but I might as well have.
My daughter went to the same high school this kid went to. He was a senior, just like she was three years ago. My son goes to a private school right up the street. This crime has walked into my front door and shot down any notion I have ever had about ours being a quiet little neighborhood…the kind where children can play freely outside without fear.
The dumpster where Anthony’s body was found is filled with memories…his friends turning it into a makeshift shrine. There are candles, flowers, teddy bears and pictures. It’s heartbreaking. These kids have no where to grieve and to mourn…so they chose the final resting place. The last place he ever was.
Today the police came and took the dumpster. They threw away all the candles, teddy bears and other offerings because the church wanted it off their property.
This is where my problem lies. Everyone who has read me knows I am Jewish. I am not a religious woman but one of faith. To me, it was a terrible slap in the face to the children of this community to remove the dumpster along with all the memorabilia being placed around it. They didnt want the kids on their property any longer even though they held a memorial service for him on Monday night. They just want it to go away.
Kids are still leaving flowers and notes on the spot where the dumpster was. They aren’t letting the people of the church discourage their mourning.
My problem is with sending my son to this church for his guitar lessons any more. I feel that they let these children down by not allowing the dumpster to stand. Throwing away those items that they left behind was an act of cruelty. These poor kids don’t know where to go and grieve and this was the only place that made any sense to them.
Do you see my plight?
Do I continue to support the church by letting my son take his music lessons there…or do I support the right of people to be able to grieve in their own way?
I am very confused and I am heartbroken for this kid.
It’s just too close to home…literally.